Priorities…🌸

Being a mother means your priorities change & your thought process is different. There are things I don’t want my son to ever experience. Some things can’t be helped in life & I can’t bubble wrap my son but there’s things I should be on top of.

1- Home🏑

My son should understand that he has a home & it is my duty to ensure he always has one. I’ve gone through my fair share of houses but now, as a mum, I don’t think I could put my son through regular & avoidable moves. I think kids should be settled & taught to respect their home. It should be a place of peace & serenity & full of memories & lessons. It’s my job to make my house a home that offers security & a place my son doesn’t feel he needs to ‘get away from’. I really don’t understand how girls allow their messy relationships (anti social behaviour) or debt (rent arrears) run then out of home. My parents moved into my home when I was 14 days old & my mother still lives in & owns it. It’s nice to go ‘home’ to a house full of memories & good laughs & know I grew up there. 

2. RelationshipsπŸ’‘

There’s nothing wrong with having relationships but I am my sons protector & he is my NUMBER 1 priority. Anyone I bring around my son has to be someone who shows they have our best interests at heart & I can trust. Some females don’t want to be alone & unfortunately will put up with unsavoury traits to ‘keep their man’. No man is worth keeping that puts mine & more importantly my sons health or freedom at risk. Mothers, please, please, please DO NOT ACCEPT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE! If you experience it, please don’t allow it to continue & do whatever you can to keep you & your kids safe.

3. Progress πŸ’‘

Whether it is work, studying or starting a business, utilise your time & develop your skills/talents. You’ll be amazed how much you can inspire & set an example for your kids. Do what you can and push yourself to shine, don’t doubt yourself, you’ve got this mama. 

We all have different priorities & goals & aspirations but we should fight to achieve them all. Don’t doubt yourself, you’re stronger than you think! All in all, put your kids first & you can’t lose! 


– Quick thought from Muva 🌸

Time flies…🌸

My baby boy is 5 & a half months old 😭😩

Can you imainge? A whole 5 months?!?!

I literally felt like he was born last week. I miss him being so slow & so little. Now he’s shuffling across my bed, rolling & is sooooooo close to sitting up by himself. Hes also mastering the art of sitting up so I’m hoping he’ll be crawling soon! He’s also very chatty and not a day goes by I don’t hear his giggle and laugh! I never believed it was possible to love another human being soooooooo hard! He literally makes my heart melt. I look at him and my heart beats faster just out of the pride I carry from seeing him! This lil person who was once a tiny dark spec on a ultrasound is now a living, breathing person who likes a cuddle & tickle!

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I have been soooooooooooo blessed with a baby who sleeps & eats well! At the moment he loveeessssssss sweet potatoe & carrots, isn’t so keen on brocolli but will eat it anyway lol. He loves baby rusk (reduced sugar) & banana porridge! He loves his pineapple but has a mixed reaction to mangos (none of the British shit, great grandma sent him mango from back home! πŸ‡―πŸ‡²) All in all he’s not a fussy eater & will try anything but loves his food hot! Once any of his main meals lose heat he loses interest. I guess it’s a Reid trait (my dads side of family). My chubby man also sleeps a good 10/11 hours a night & isn’t up till around 9am. It’s amazing that he sleeps so well and I suffer from insomnia. I literally can’t complain about bedtime, he will chitter chatter until he’s really tired, put his head down & he’s out like a light! He breaths heavy & sleeps quite heavy, both traits are from daddy πŸ˜‚ he’s just genuinely a well behaved & happy baby boy. Always laughing, chattering or smiling.

We celebrated our son being blessed & I couldn’t ask for a more beautiful day! His dad & I were joined by family & friends to Β see our beautiful young king be blessed. I find it ironic as he’s the one that has actually blessed us! He laughed & chattered to the pastor before being blessed & was so behaved. Soooooo many people came to me to comment on how well behaved he was & just how much of a happy baby he is. It was so nice to know we have such a great support network. His dad was absolutely amazing & it was great to have him every step of the way on Sunday. The pictures looked great & I couldn’t have asked for a better day! Our lil man slept through the after party πŸ˜‚ but it was full of great energy & great food.


Choosing godparents wasn’t difficult, I selected people who had always shown they had mine & Makhs best interest at heart. People who have known me for years & had watched me grow & develop. I chose people who have shown me their positive heart & have stood by myself & Makhs dad over the years.


Even though our relationship as partners had finished last year, this year our relationship started as parents. Being consistently together since 2010, there were a lot of feelings & history which made that co parenting relationship complicated but once we both got into the same page it was great. To see someone I love & my best friend, put love we have, back into my biggest blessing is amazing and I appreciate his efforts. It’s been a long time coming but I’m really happy with where we are. The baby blessing was the first time since we broke up that we stood pubically ‘together’ as parents & the positive feedback & support was beautiful. I know my son will be able to look back on the photos and see his parents are & always will be united when it comes to him.


The reality is there will always be somebody who wants to see the worst or the negative and some people who even stoop as low as to lie to manipulate others into damaging your character. As long as you are doing what’s best for your children and looking after yourself don’t worry about them. Love always wins and self-love is the most important love of all without it you can’t love others. Some people will never move forward but I choose to move on. I have always been confident in my own skin and I intend to keep it that way and pass it on to my son. I Β want my son to understand how important family is, family is everything. No matter what happens between me and his dad I want him to have a great relationship with his grandparents, aunt, uncles and cousins.

I’m so close into moving into my permanent home and currently looking at going back into studying and finishing my degree. Whatever I choose to do I now have the biggest motivation I will ever have, my beautiful young king. And he will be the reason for my success. I will also be taking on holiday soon so I am looking forward to time in the Sun and a well-deserved break. All in all so far in this nearly 6 months of his life I have learnt to love me and the life I live and that’s all I can do and guarantee hopefully my son will benefit from this.
– A more than happy Muva Nae 🌸

The battle of positivity…🌸

You blink, life changes. *sighs*

I’m literally at a point where I’m wondering if I’m coming or going. The only thing that makes me happy, is my beautiful boy. His smile literally lights up the room & he makes my heart so warm. I could never give up or stop pushing because he motivates me, effortlessly.

One day, I feel like I have everything together & I’m on my way to great things and other days I wake up & have to force myself to get out of the house. Mental battles are harder than physical ones & the reality is, it’s just part of life. At some point you’ll wonder where you took a wrong turn but it’s about how you get back on track. A lot of people take for granted that as I am quite strong minded with a sharp tongue that I don’t hurt. WRONG. People need to remember, I am human. I am a woman. I have feelings.

First things first, remove “them”. And when I say them, I’m referring to those who offer nothing but negativity or darkness. I’ll be honest, I can be real petty & my savage side be on fleek but nowadays if I can’t laugh at it, I don’t take it in. There’s people who have tried to trash my character & attack my womanhood and the reality, because I’m strong enough, I haven’t allowed their toxic thoughts to affect me. But I think it’s important to understand how our words can damage another person and their mental health. I can hold my hands up and say my mouth is wreckless at times (to say the least), but during my pregnancy & since having my young king, I realised just how much my words can hurt others. We never know how much of it they take in, how strong they are or aren’t, where they are in life ect. So sometimes I try to think twice about what I say. Honestly, the things I’ve heard people who don’t even know me on a personal level say has been harsh but those who know me I don’t need to explain! 


Another thing I started doing was explaining myself less & less. I explain to who & when is necessary. It’s made me a lot happier & allowed myself to live in peace without anyones judgement or opinion overshadowing me. I also learnt to stop explaining things that were unimportant to irrelevant people. For example, some people want to know who I’m seeing πŸ˜‚ these times its non of their business 🌚 We’re in a world where people are happy on instagram but battling depression in real life. Don’t buy into the hype. Don’t try to create the “perfect” image. Some pretend they have a perfect partner, or perfect job, or perfect life & when the smallest thing happens it pushes them over the edge. 


I’ve had to appreciate myself when no one else did. It’s ok to look at your own progress & pat yourself on your back. Last year I was wasting my energy on a relationship that had ran its course. Last year I wanted to fight nonstop. Last year I thought I had so much to prove. Last year has gone. This year, I am calm, laughing, smiling & enjoying. As a result, I am glowing! 


You don’t simply forget about everything you’ve been through, you just learn how to cope with it. Whatever it is, you can get through it! I promise you. Different scenarios will have different routes to happiness but you’ll get there. Don’t be afraid to ask for help/support. 


Don’t stress! Youre where you need to be. You will become who you’re meant to be! You’ll meet who you need to meet! You’ll go where you need to go! Just keep being you! 


So recently I started a whatsapp group chat with some other mothers from my insta page. Although we have diffferent views & don’t agree on everything, it’s nice to connect with other people who can relate to each other & not tear each other down. 


Keep trying to be a better version of yourself, the answers will come with time. 


– A growing Nae 🌸

My body & I…🌸

Over the last few weeks I’ve written about the changes with my young king & his routine but I thought it was time to be selfish & talk about me 😊



So my body has obviously gone through changes during my pregnancy & after but tbh I love myself more than pre pregnancy. As a result of being physically sick during my pregnancy I lost a lot of weight ! Honestly though I’m proud & glad I haven’t put it back on…..yetπŸ™Š Breastfeeding definitely helped to snap my uterus down & loving it! 

Since having my beautiful boy I’ve had so much more energy & have been more motivated to get back in shape. I don’t eat regularly but I do eat a lot more healthy πŸ’ͺ🏾

I had a 2 degree tear following my labour which honestly wasn’t that bad. I didn’t feel the stitches & once I was home 3 days later I nearly forgot I had them. Within 10 days a majority of the stitches had dissolved & I was feeling great! 

The first 2 weeks I complained about a shooting pain in the sole & outside of my feet & my midwife explained the nervous system was connected to the uterus & as I shrunk the pressure was causing the pain. My stomach went back to its previous state within 9 days. 

At 4 weeks I went to my GP for my check up & they said I had healed up & could resume normal activity !! I was so happy & started my home workout routines. I did 10 min abdominal excersies when I got up & before bed. I also put lil man in his car seat & uses it as reps for my arms. I also started a 30 say squat challenge & do at least 1 hour walks everyday! I am soon to start the #100daysoffitness before I go on holiday! I wish I could go to the gym but I live far from any friends/family & there’s no one close to have my lil man regularly. I am currently waiting for a personally designed plan from @theketobelle to eat & train well from home.

I’ve realised that since giving birth, my bum has lifted my waist is smaller. My legs are extremely toned & my boobs haven’t changed much! I’ve gone down a back size & up a cup size πŸ’ƒπŸΎI stopped breastfeeding at 12 weeks & have put my nipple piercings back in. 

Having sex after birth seemed mentally impossible but thankfully it was a great experience. As stupid as it sounds, sex after giving birth is like being a virgin again. I remember nearly sweating, being nervous & shy and acting like a lil school girl againπŸ˜‚  but honestly, sex wasn’t painful to start again & I can honestly say I missed it πŸ˜‚ i look forward to sex more than my boyfriend does πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

My hair has grown beautifully during pregnancy & some warned it may break after birth but it’s still healthy & keeps getting better ! 

I’ve always had good skin but since giving birth, I’ve had to take care of it better as it is extremely sensitive right now & reacts to everything πŸ™„ daily cleansing & toning are key for my new glow πŸ’«

I’ve realised I can’t hold my wee as long as before but as I am still doing my pelvic floor exercises it seems to be getting better. 

I also think my mental & emotional changes help with my healthier life. Being stress & drama free is key to my new positive life & my son &  boyfriend add to it. They both motivate me to be a better version of myself & that’s what intent to do πŸ’ͺ🏾πŸ’ͺ🏾 

With my lil mans christening coming up & then our holiday, my motivation is πŸ’― 

Bring on the glow up !!πŸ’«


– Confident Muva 🌸

What a week…🌸

Well the past week has been beautiful & peaceful…



So my handsome young king had his immunisations!! I was by far more of a nervous wreck than him! The doctor done a quick check, his legs, stomach, back and reflexes and I wheeled him through to the nurse. I definitely felt like Judas, walking him into what I knew would hurt 😭I bought him Calpol as a precaution as I read up about one of the side effect being a fever. I went to boots & looked through the baby medicine. Calpol was the only brand that did 2months+! All the others (including boots own brand) started from 3months+ which I found so stupid since their shots are given at 8 weeks πŸ™„
Anyway, I sat him down on my knee & she gave him the first shot. He literally jumped & instantly screamed which was bittersweet. It was horrible that my baby was hurt & obviously shocked but it meant he was too upset & worked up to feel the next 2. By the time she put the plasters on my lil man was smiling & breaking her heart. Myself, not so good. She had to get me tissues 😭😭 Luckily, I live across the road from my GP so I was able to go get home within 4 mins, give him calpol & give him cuddles. He wasn’t really upset (actually I was) & went straight to sleep for his normal afternoon nap. The nurse had warned that the hepatitis B shot normally causes the fever so ensured he was in light clothing & no heavy blanket. He was ok up until when he woke up next in the night, where he was crying more than usual and very fussy. Thankfully, his temperature stayed at its normal range and I even took him swimming for the first time 2 days later. 

He was uncertain about the water at first but soon got into it and had everyone at the pool dying to take him home! 

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My lil prince is now in size 1 pampers and is gaining weight at a healthy rate. He’s still quite small to everyone else but is a lot bigger than a few weeks ago! He’s vision has him looking at people and objects more focused and is laughing in response to people talking to him. He is so long now and I’ve decided to take him out his Moses basket and he will start sleeping in his cot. My partner & I put the cot up this week (I just handed him screws πŸ˜‚) so I’m excited to put him in! He wiggles and shuffles so much & is so determined to try and crawl. He is also holding his bottle himself & burps so easily! He is very alert & is always lifting his head up or trying to sit himself  up !


I have used Water Wipes since he was born and absolutely love them & have found them to be great on his skin. I even use them to wipe his milk tongue! But I have found these Huggies Newborn Wipes the perfect alternative ! They are cost effective and possess the same properties ! I absolutely love them and would recommend them to any mummy! 

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Honestly, time is flying by and my young king is just growing sooooooo fast! I love him more & more everyday which seems impossible but honestly I’ve never experienced love like this! β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️

– A Love Filled Muva πŸ”₯


It’s been a while…🌸

It’s been a few weeks since I last wrote anything so it’s time to update you on the next chapter…!

My young king is currently 9 weeks old and he is the most beautiful person I have ever laid eyes on 😩😍 he is such a character already and makes me smile every day without fail! When I last posted, I was working on his weight & eating, which has picked up tremendously! πŸ’ͺ🏾 He currently weighs 8oz11 which is such a leap from his birth weight. πŸ‘πŸΎ 


I’ve realised just how demanding breastfeeding is and over the  past few weeks I have reduced the breast. With my son growing his demand has grown so much that my boobs can’t keep up 🀣 he gets really upset and finds it frustrating to latch on & it becomes a monumental task for the both of us. I now breastfeed for his first feed in the am & last feed at night & bottle feed during the day. As he was struggling with feeding when he was younger & had constipation the first week or so, he started to drink Aptamil Comfort which is a special formula for colic & constipation. I now mix it with the normal Aptamil First Milk). He currently has changed to a medium flow teet as he is soooo greedy πŸ˜‚Sometimes drinking these special formulas alone can cause baby to be lazy with their bowel movements when weaned off. I’ll be very honest to say, when he poos at times the explosion is real 😩but I rather out than in πŸ˜‚ he doesn’t open his bowels everyday, his routine is every 2-3 days. If he is straining a lil (you’ll see the concentration on his face) then I let him take 3-4 sips of warm water (the Midwife’s will tell you not to put its fine as long as it’s a small amount) and he has instant relief within 10 minutes (be prepared for that bath life). 




I give him a bath at this point every other day & he lovvvvveeessssss it! I only use pure olive/coconut oil in his hair & I absolutely adore the Aveeno Baby range. I’ve also used Simple Baby All-in-1 wash which which I also like on his skin. He is still in size micro in nappies & goes through about 6 on average a day. 

My lil man is not a chubby boy but is sooooooo long! He’s too long for Newborn Sleepsuits but too small for 0-3 months so he’s currently got a mixed wardrobe πŸ˜‚ I love putting him in the little outfits on the day & sleepsuits at night. He still wears micro size nappies but I’m hoping to put him in size 1s next week! 


My lil man has his full head of hair & it’s getting longer & thicker Week by week ! I only use organic olive or coconut oil & I think the key is keeping their hair hydrated. 


Makhairo is still sleeping in his Moses basket however I am putting up his cot this week as he is sooooooo long! He finds it easier to fall asleep on his front & shuffles a lot when he’s fighting the sleep. As a result he can travel from one end of the basket to the other πŸ™ƒ he goes to sleep anytime between 23.30-1.30 & isn’t up until 8.30. β™₯οΈπŸ™πŸΎ I still love watching him sleep and can’t get over the fact he’s mine! Nowadays he fights his sleep & can become fussy but he normally nods off if I place him on his front. (The NHS advise you to not let them sleep on their front as they can be sick & inhale it & choke to death.) I let him sleep on his front in the day when I can keep an eye. At night I wait for him to fall asleep then turn him on his side. He’s such a happy & content baby & makes my heart melt daily! He is starting to gain focus in his sight & is following  movements. Although he smiled before, it was involuntary whereas now he smiles as a result of me playing & talking with him. 


Makhs is having his injections and I must say, I’m so nervous! I’ve bought Calpol (2months+) as a precaution. I’m hoping that all goes well but I was nervous about the amount he’s having (3 injections & 1 oral liquid). I didn’t know a lot about them & was directed to The Green Book. It’s the government website with all information about immunisations. I’ll definitely include his reactions in the next update! 

https://www.gov.uk/government/collections/immunisation-against-infectious-disease-the-green-book 

As for me, I suffered from a 2nd degree tear in labour (I didn’t realise) & received stitches which completely dissolved with 10/11 days. To be honest, I forgot I even had them & had no limitations. At 4 weeks postpartum I was checked & given the green light to return to normal physical activity (gym,sex ect). Since then I have been eating healthier and feeling full of energy (I think your child naturally pumps you up). I find my appetite a lil rubbish & getting used to a new routine it’s easy a lot of days to remember to eat πŸ™ˆ I also recognise I am getting a lot more sleep than other Mummy’s so I use it o my advantage. I’ve also got this constant urge to tidy up πŸ˜‚. With breastfeeding I realised drinking plenty is key. Any days I haven’t drank enough normally causes me to suffer from really intense headaches & I don’t produce enough.  

All in all, I couldn’t ask for a better baby! Everywhere I go I’m reminded how blessed I am by the constant compliments & smiles. 

-Extremely Blessed & Humbled Muva Nae🌸

1 Month Update…🌸

My mornings will never be the same…They’ll always be better ! β™₯️

It has been exactly 4 weeks since the world was blessed with my young king & it’s honestly gone by soooooo fast! I  feel sooooooo old as my baby boy is growing so fast right before my eyes. He is changing so much & developing into himself well. He is still very small but he has the biggest character to make up for it…

I am currently mixed feeding my lil man, he takes the breast for anything between 40-80 mins & I top him up with formula. He has now matured enough to drink powdered milk so he is currently drinking Aptamil Comfort Formula which is specific formula for constipation & colic. Even though my beautiful son doesn’t suffer from either it can be used as a preventive measure. It seems to agree with him & fill him up so I’ll continue to use it.

Ive realised my son is a fussy eater πŸ˜‚ he likes breast milk from the breast, he likes formula in the bottle, however he hates breast milk in the bottle πŸ˜’ so I haven’t been expressing the past 10days or so. My boobs haven’t swelled or filled up & as I breastfeeding a majority of the time my pump has started to collect dust lol. 


My lil man HATED his first bath, he literally looked at me as if I was Satan 😩 I realised he was trying to grab on a lot & that he must have felt insecure so o decided the next time around to add more water & it worked !! Ever since he absolutely looovvvesssss his baths! What I love is that I can weigh him before I bathe him thanks to my built in scales πŸ’ͺπŸΎπŸ™ŒπŸΎ he loves to kick & his favourite part is when I do his hair 😍 I can’t wait till I take him swimming….πŸ’™


 One thing I’m finding amazing about my young king is how much he sleeps πŸ˜‚ at night I put him down around 12.30am & he doesn’t wake up till around 6.30am. It’s an absolute godsend ! πŸ™ŒπŸΎ I was waking him up 3.30ish to feed as I was nervous I was starving him but then I realised as a premature baby he needs the rest to grow, if he’s that hungry, he’ll wake up! I don’t feel so guilty now & I let him sleep. Another thing is he sleeps through anything! Loud music, mummy singing in the shower, him doing a number 1/2, loud family ( trust me I come from a home of loud mouths πŸ˜‚), the hoover, ANYTHING ! The past week I’ve realised he’s been awake longer in the days & is engaging so much more than he did. I honestly can say I’ve been blessed with a happy & content bubba. I can leave him lying down on the bed & get on with so much and he’ll just stare. I’ve also realised in the past week that he actually tries to fight his sleep a lot more! 


We recently went on a family days out in Bluewater Shopping Centre & I was so impressed with their baby facilities! They had a baby feeding room, baby changing room & family bathroom. The baby feeding room was where I went to pop lil man on the breast and it was a pleasuraable experience. There were massive comfy chairs for Mummy’s, bottle warmers, microwaves, cubicles and a TV area (some sort of kids film was on) and it was sooooooo clean! 


The changing room has about 10 changing stations each with their own bin, sink & tap. Again, it was squeaky clean. The touch automatic doors made it easy to access & exit with the pushchair. I wish all baby facilities were like that. 

Lil man is reocognising voices & sounds and growing everyday. Although he’s growing he is still a small baby currently weighing only 5lbs10oz & wears new baby clothes but he is has a strong grip & tries to sit up & crawl. He has recently been introduced who is now his best friend (God help meπŸ˜‚) & is learning how to pull it out his mouth (alrhough he hasn’t mastered getting back in). I can’t express how fast time goes by & I can’t wait to see what great things my son will achieve but please slow down lil man! I will definitely treasure all the little moments…πŸ’™

– A proud Muva Nae 🌸